kids and quran:
Memorizing the entire Quran is a dream many Muslim parents today have for their children. And indeed, this is a goal nobler than many if not all others. However, after kids have memorized a number of surahs and perhaps even a juz or two of the Quran, there is a question that plagues many parents: how do I know if my child is ready to commit to memorizing the entire Quran?
Parents should be aware that doing hifz of the Quran is not a small task. It requires a tremendous amount of effort, focus, and dedication on behalf of the student, parent(s),
and the teacher. Therefore, when deciding whether or not to enroll your children in a hifz program, you should make sure that you, the child, and the teacher are prepared for this huge and blessed commitment. If the child has a Quran teacher, ask the teacher if s/he feels your kid is capable of doing hifz of the Quran.
If the teacher thinks that the child indeed has the focus and persistence needed to memorize the Quran and that he does a very good job memorizing surahs, then you may consider enrolling the child in a hifz program. However,
first you, the parent, must make sure that you are willing to expend the time and effort needed to support your kid during this endeavor. If not, it may not be best to put this responsibility on the child’s shoulders. Last, but certainly not least, the child should be asked if he or she is willing to strive to become a hāfiz or hāfiza.
If the child says no, then the parent should drop the idea, at least until the kid is willing to make this commitment.
Unfortunately, many parents do not follow this advice a very well-known and authentic scholar, hāfiz, and spiritual guide from Pakistan. Parents often force their children to do hifz, when it is not fard (obligatory) on everyone to memorize the entire Quran. kids should only be enrolled in a hifz program if they are happy and willing to commit to this blessed task.
8 Practical Tips of Islamic Parenting for Modern Parents.
1-Explain them the Good and the Bad.
Show Your kids the values of good deeds and their effects on the individuals and society and also show them the effects of bad deeds, all within the child’s capability of understanding.
2- Set An Example.
Parents should be a good example in their behavior because kids like to imitate their parents in their sayings and their deeds.For Instance If You read Salah in time,they will learn Prayer quite fast.
Take them on trips which enhance Spirituality .For Instance You can Take them to Masjid or religious gathering.Taking part in the celebrations and festivals with Muslims, and sharing picnics and creating ties with their Muslim brothers of the same age is also a good Effort.
4-Keep an Eye on the types of friend they make.
One of the important things that parents must teach their kids is to choose the good company and to the avoid the bad one, because children are always influenced by the company they keep. The bad behavior can be easily transmitted through bad company. So the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, warned us by saying, “Man is inclined to get influenced by his friend’s manners, so one must be careful in choosing friends.” (Reported by Abu Dawud & At-Tirmidhi).
5-Treat your Kids Well and be Patient with them.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that practically. When he was praying as an Imam with the people, his grandson Al-Hasan, son of his daughter Fatimah, may Allah be pleased with them rode his back while he was bowing. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, lengthened his bow. When he finished his prayer, some attending Companions said, “You lengthened your bow?” Then the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, answered, “My grandson rode my back and I hate hastening him.
6-The Love of Allah and Muhammad(pbuh).
Imbuing in children the feeling of love of Allah, His Prophet, Muslims, and all people is Our Resposibility.This love will lead to special behavior towards all those loved. 20 These are general guidelines to raise our children Islamically, so every Muslim must take care of his children and know the correct path that must be followed. This will help us do the job we are entrusted to do as Allah proscribed, as well as the responsibility the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, has clarified, with aim of protecting the future generations of Muslims, as Allah Almighty says: (And Say Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds, and (so will) his Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen. Then He will inform you of what you used to do.) (At-Tawbah: 105).
8-Do Not Accuse them in a Direct Way.
Kids are Prone to make Mistakes.Unfortunately they become a target of our bad Mood.We Sould Exercise Patience and explain thier fault in a reasonable manner so the they learn from their Mistakes.